Have you ever heard that saying, “Turn your troubles into triumphs?” It sounds great, doesn’t it? Then you turn to walk away while rolling your eyes with a tear rolling down your cheek because you feel so much anger and frustration that someone would even have the audacity to say that to you when they haven’t been in your shoes or felt your feelings. I mean, HOW DO you attempt to celebrate a hard day? How do you tell your heart, mind, and soul that this is a celebatory moment rather than a moment of devastation? How do you smile when you’re supposed to be sad? How do you laugh when you’re supposed to cry?
How do you laugh when you’re supposed to cry?
MINDSET.
One word answer. Simple definition. And that’s it. You change your mindset. When you start changing the way you think and react to situations, you’re suddenly in control. The things that would have
You have to start trying to do it.
You have to make an effort to take something you see or have felt as bad and turn it into something good.
For instance:
It may be that your tired blew on the way to work and you thank God for interrupting your path because you passed an accident afterward.
It may be that you have a leak in your plumbing in your kitchen in October but are then thankful that you caught it before winter and the pipes busted and caused more damage and you had to pay more money.
It may be that you got declined on the mortgage loan you applied for but then you lost your job the week of being told “No.” by the bank.
Or maybe you have difficult, toxic, and unsupportive parents who have chosen themselves over you your entire life but you now have children of your own that you’re determined to do the EXACT OPPOSITE for. Maybe that’s why things happen that hurt but are later used to bless your life, the ones you love, or even a stranger….either way, it feels much better to turn those troubles into triumphs.
ONCE YOU START DOING THAT; there will be things that happen, people that reach out, messages from the universe if you listen, etc. that make your days, your weeks, your months, and your years better. You’ll smile for no reason or there will be small little reasons that pop up more often to make you smile.
I decided yesterday to stop getting stuck in my negative/sad/mad/disappointed thoughts and being thankful for my blessings. I received a message from a sweet girl this morning that I do not talk to on a normal basis and the message has uplifted me the entire day. Also, guess what I did when I read the message? I SMILED.
HERE’S THE MESSAGE:
“Larissa,
I received this email and made me think about you so thought I would share. I’ve been following your blog. I don’t know what you’re going through but know that I’m praying. I hope I’m not overstepping here, but… when you don’t feel that you have a good relationship your parents, remember that you have a heavenly Father who Loves you!! No matter what and will always be there for you. Don’t let the devil steal your JOY!!
“What negative thing in your life is being replaced with beauty?
Your ashes have names like disappointment, grief, pain, and heartache. On your own, they are a suffocating pile of dusty debris crowding your life’s path and limiting your ability to move forward.
But with God, something else happens. Out of the ashes, out of the gray ruins, rises something beautiful and remarkable that causes your heart to rejoice in His faithfulness. Just like people in the Bible were sometimes given new names with new meanings, your ashes take on new meaning and the outcome a new name.
Joy. Gladness. Rejoicing. Praise. Laughter. Peace. Restoration.
The old is being replaced with the new as God lovingly molds you into His likeness and turns your circumstances into a display of His glory. What once was just a bad memory becomes a glass through which you are able to see Him more clearly in your life.
“…to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor.” Isaiah 61:3
God is faithful, and He is working all things – the highs and the lows – for your good and His glory. What may now seem like an experience marked only by sadness or disappointment will be transformed into a story of His goodness.
– Danita & the Women of Joy team”
I carried that smile with me today & it felt good.